In this very special episode, it is my great honor to be invited to the White House for a rare and very personal interview with President Joe Biden.
We will witness The President reflecting on his earliest childhood memories that have indelibly shaped his path. We pause and contemplate the significance of reaching out to those facing tough times, for every compassionate connection has the power to uplift and heal.
The conversation goes deep as we delve into the profound realm of family, the cornerstone of existence, and discover how to cherish and prioritize those who matter most; and the art of decision-making and preparation, as you learn to navigate life's intricate choices with clarity and mindfulness.
In this interview, you'll learn:
- The strength one can draw from having a supportive family
- How to stand up for yourself and for others
- How to help someone that is grieving
- How to balance the weight of decision-making
- The impact of being present in the most challenging times
In this episode we embrace the transformative power of love, compassion, and purposeful connection, as we unlock the treasures of our past and present.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
- 00:00 Intro
- 03:17 What is your earliest childhood memory that has defined what you have become today?
- 10:55 When you see people who are going through some tough times, it does matter when you reach out
- 12:58 How do you let your children and the people that matter to you know that they are important people in your life?
- 17:35 Family is the most important asset in life. How do you prioritize yours?
- 21:17 How do you process decision-making? How do you prepare for it?
- 27:10 How do you assess a person’s motivation so we can get to the root of it?
- 29:59 The President on Final Five
- 39:10 The story behind the pictures that The President holds dear
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You know our mission here is to make the world happier healthier and more healed and
I believe that learning about people's stories of healing of grief of loss of growth is a powerful way to do that.
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memory.
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boy in the neighborhood lived down a narrow called apply. We lived up. The hill,
and those are my friends in the alley behind our house to my mother was at the pantry. Looking out,
the tough guy neighbourhood smack music appears on them.
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like lie like that: I'd catch, my rhythm and wherever and
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similar experience with being bullied so that residence.
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were growing up and it was the color my skin. I grew up in an area where I wasn't surrounded by.
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into my school and spoke to the teachers reaches roy
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and you sit with. No, they sat in alphabetical order. I was enough
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class everybody read a paragraph I got to my parents.
and I remember was because I should try to memorize it rather
have to look at the world, renowned, rereading tumors,
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a gentleman and the teacher. So what's up
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gender, so gentle man- I said gentlemen,
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They went to the principal's office. Sat me outside the door. The doors cranny always knows or pay classes. Glass windows. You didn't go to the ceiling.
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watch out, go back to class joy
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When, when somebody reaches out
I'm sure you have also had some experience. You some say come on. I, for example,
more than a handful young study
ass, a young anymore, that I still keep in touch with it. One young kids die
he reduced me when I ran for president, took such courage, because he to talk touched to talk like like that and he practice the practice. The practice,
a profound impact on life. No young man when I was a vice president, I would like it.
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I could see him go left. I said
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help me right. Mother looked at medium,
took a man. I showed him how our market my speeches, so that I can get a little cadence with
did, did you ever see a movie? The king speech? Yes, of course, well,
the gentleman who had come at a copy of the king speech. Do
tell me a copy of my book with me, but there's a guy. When these days I show you my speeches. I looked at
and a marked in the same way, every speech I mark up in the same way you think they were-
see that smash marks. I pronoun yes! Well,
just to help me, but people reached out to me too. Maybe that
impediments best thing ever happened to me.
it's incredible is into her way challenge
you're going through actually helps you become more compassionate and empathetic towards other people,
it's kind of human nature for most people, when you are
stand? The pains?
feeling. Your first instinct is look
We we ever expression far away from the time. I was a kid.
It's all my shown up to me to be. There
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you haven't some come up and says: hey come on, you may lead to bomb, makes differed absent.
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some are reached out to his her genuine added value.
who had made their problem with him. Have you care care? How very fell very soon,
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of all the young people today, I think,
there's more anxiety, loneliness today than theirs ben
a long long time. You know my friend, I appointed him admiral, the mcmurphy.
He was telling me about the you, the percentage of young people today who are fairly lonely alone. I sometimes it is touching to show up.
I used to get my the sea son beau, who should be set at a me. What I always say dad you know tat make
I know I'd I'd, get on a plane and go home because someone had her serious.
how was the wife and daughter, and I
a tale of time when he passed away, the hundreds of people told me how he called
He showed up use their agenda because people shown for me too, is really matters.
You ve been through you mention a day you ve been through so much tragic loss in your life. Is you just mentioned there? You didn't run for president seen twenty sixteen shortly after the loss of your son, you ve lost your first wife and daughter. Now I refer gaps it in. I can't even begin to understand how someone
Has the courage to process that much loss in grief, let alone move forward in the way you have its truly admirable? How did you begin,
I had an overwhelming advantage in the loss, and that was I had a really close family. That was there, for example, when my wife and daughter were killed. My first wife and my two boys were very badly.
Attracted learn brought chance. I wasn't it was not the acts when I got home from the hospital. My
Is your husband already gave up their apartment and moved in how we raise my kid? My brother, when we lived in a suburban area with more countries and suburban,
and there was no barring barn or garage bar and my my brother came in. He turned the loft of the barn into an apartment for himself. They were there for me all the time that was a gigantic difference. My best friend in my life and my sister and my brothers
so I had an enormous advantage and I think that when you see people or gone through something tough-
It doesn't matter if you reach out, I made it does matter. I, for example,
Will you now you hammer when you're a senator fraud years? I was in a small state. You know so many people on people pass wage,
the way through the shoe known when what was happening. I learned in early on people stoppages coming, throw their arms around me.
because if they know you know the pain they feel they get some solace in it? It's not always easy, but it's a it. Just matters us to suggest just reach out
let people know you see them. How did you allow yourself to receive that help to? I feel like
you were mentioning earlier with the loan.
innocent anxiety that exists. A lot of people either struggled to know
to say. I think we live in a society where people are born. Why say
They ve gone out there and the opposite end. What you just said, being able to be open enough to actually receive help requires a certain amount of
origin strength as well. Well, I was raised
Family for real, extended family, my grandparents as well, where
the danish pressure farmers beginning misled?
there's a rule: the family grown up, not a joke. We didn't notice the time, but whenever you want to speak to your mother father they can we
He had a problem, no matter what they were doing, stopped
no matter. What ever do I stopped and heard? Listen to
and I did the same with my children. They then do the same with theirs, vegas, etc.
It's a matter of them now on that
they are the most important thing in your life and they got a point.
I'm your there to listen. I have seven grandkids for more five nor lothar,
talk on the phone every day. I either text and recall another factory, kip,
haven't. I I didn't realize I haven't realize view having for interview the grandchildren I said and just at the time- and they said they call me
pop pop causes every day or texas every day, and I call
when the phone rang, while they're in the eye. I give my word. I had no idea, they are known, but
Look I just think being there is, is important and make such a difference. I think.
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solution we have to be able to
fixed eyes. I agree, but it's just
just showing up even people
if you don't know that well, but you've met the fact, you'd call and say I'm thinking of you. I learned this from my experience. The day will come.
When you open a closet door and you smell the fragrance of her dresses or your walk gone by that park, where you were, you were you, we walked with your child or your boy for your house.
Or a thing and remind you ever
august time will just a tear to your
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does your mind you. I think what you just said about the smiled before the terror is probably one of the real things I've ever heard. I think we often
trying to create a world in which we only have smiles and where we ve oppression,
selves and the people around us to be forever happy, and will you just said there was was really really resin
It moved me really hit me. Actually the idea that you all cry it will happen, but
tiny smiled at you experience, even through a lost, even through green, your fortunate that you got to have that experience that allowed you to find that smile at that time, and I
the you ve been through so many obstacles in your life. But I'd love to know
you see as the relationship between vulnerability and strength,
specially as a leader because I think leaders have an over
arching pressure to this.
play strand in a certain way? I'll give an example. A coach several see owes and individuals, athletes and others
And one of the sea owes you leads a law
is your organization called me. A few months ago we were working through some things together
One point I said to them. I said it would be really wonderful for you to tell your team
that you lead. What you ve been going through in growing through
they said J. I don't know. If I can tell them, I don't if I can tell them
And I said why, and they said well, because it will.
like I'm weak,
said to them will know
being vulnerable in sharing your growth is the greatest strength. That's not a weakness, but that because so many leaders feel left to portray a certain type of strength.
Today, I can see there's a grace in the way you wish it well,
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everybody. My my staff new,
I had when I was a centre for a long time had one point and on how to measure, but
I had the same staff longest than anybody in the senate at the time.
Jeff, we're doing a very, very important supreme court hearing our chairman judiciary committee, and we worked very hard.
And did all the research you know anyway,
there is one young man would people saves invaluable views.
The guy. You knew all the detail about her too.
and I found out that he was having trouble at home, and I said I want you to go home. Don't come to the area said. I cannot go home, go home.
Why? Because I you would go thousand bosses. Barely one me! No one
and so I know when I had crises at home, raising the boys were. I went home
The dunno, how many years ago it was but in this job it is vice president, another person was having some trouble at home and I found out about, I said: go home
They said no! No. I can't! I guess. If you don't go home, I'm going to fire, you go home. He relationship is a hell lot more important than whatever you're doing for me.
such a rule, we have not a joke
absolutely not are you and you never have to tell me why.
Are you gotta say is not can be. If I take it, you weren't
turns out you're playing games with me I'll learn, but I know you to take the time
do not get any better than your relationship
but what you re talking about- and I think you have asked my staff- I don't know better-
I think they wanted. They now that's more important, more important,
Whatever, specifically you do at the moment. For me, how do you play that rule when it feels like what they are working on? Their specific moment seems obviously to be
The most important thing in the world: how do you
because
there's only one advantage to getting older-
experience and there
to apply a little it really critical and by the way you selfish aspect too, because when
I have a problem with someone. Your lover, some problem here,
I do with it and you can't even performers
exactly right, yeah, absolutely you've.
every day for years had to make difficult and stressful decisions highs,
takes hugely impactful and so many people
you're making decisions. Do you follow? You had your heart, you got. How do you think about this?
decision making. I dont how to separate the three men
tat. My heart brings me to the problem. My gut tells me when I think I want to do
But my head, meaning the research back, sometimes says that's wrong. Answer
I think you're driven by evaluation,
No, what you value! You know what you think is important in life. You know what you think is consequential
and I think people who,
what they value, demeanor, better work,
if you follow your value so to me, you're, gonna, basically,
my dad used have an expression for real joy. Everyone is entitled to be treated with dignity. Everybody dignity was his were dignity,
and what I find myself looking through the present, for example, I was
in the event
today where I was talking now we're talking about a problem, a mile.
was having provided through how the needs of a child I'm actually here teenager. I said all I could think of an errand about not being able to afford their treatment.
It's how she's deprived of her dignity. Imagine being a parent, and you can't do anything about it, because you don't have the financial wherewithal, because you don't have the connection beyond nowhere to go
it's a little bit like an hour. I think them
dangerous. The most hated word in slang region,
other language. Translation is cancer, he can just strikes, fear and everybody.
well it's one thing to get an analysis by re taxpayers. Stony summoned a guide you through is complicated.
and we were finally significant breakthrough cancer, but you
need someone to sort of lead you through who knows about it. I think
It's the same way with about any problem. People have, if
There's a way to let people know, there's an avenue there's a way through your eyes, to have a friend named bob Gould who who died of a heart attack, and I used to say bob. Do you understand me said Joe?
understand you. I over stand you, but you gotta know how to know, and that's why we can be so.
little things like me have enormous value site
now you're walking across an intersection. Then let me do that anymore, but
Don't rush, intersection inertia, you know.
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