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to summer, better, with beyond a low and welcomed a happier a has where we talk about ideas for how to be happier this week will talk about why it's a good idea to use halfway day to reflect on our aims for twenty twenty three so far and Google announced a new term for this effort and will report on how we are doing with our aims ourselves at the twenty three and twenty three lists. The annual challenge and the one word theme. I gretchen ribbon writers studies, happiness, the five senses, human nature, I'm in new york city and join me, today from is my sister Elizabeth craft,

meals with craft, a tv writer and producer living an ally and gretchen. I've done better than most years on my list, but before we jump in, we a couple of days from listeners. julie says I'm writing to enthusiastically endorse the inside of a listener who shared thoughts of the rebel father, an episode for thirty three to My three children rebels that I have figured out the rebels do not like witnesses. If I want my rebel children to do something that is extremely time sensitive, for example, something that has to be done quickly before we can leave the house for school. I have to make. The request and be gone any watching and waiting on my part slows cooperation or at a minimum, the likelihood of cooperation without additional and often significant resistance. I appreciate just jumping when someone says jump can insult the very souls of some rebels. Therefore the

witnessing, is helpful when something really does have to happen quickly. It's also a win win. The parent is a thing to happen and the rebel child needs to maintain in a sense of dignity, which seems to be extremely important to the rebels. I now, of course, not Witnessing alone is the solution to all that has parenting a rebel, but I do think it's a little hacked to throw into the mix another related thought in contacts at our time sensitive. It also seems to help if I frame a request in a way that allows the rebel to hold onto his sense of having not been told what to do. For example, Would you be willing to unload the dishwasher some time before you go to bed? Will I think this great, and I actually have not heard of this, don't witness is so I think that that's great hack and it makes perfect sense because rebels dont, like that feeling of you,

The thing that I'm doing something, because you told me to do it and the more supervision they have, the more it can ignite that spirit of resistance. So this is one of these things. That seems like a pretty subtle difference that could actually make a very, very big difference in how what level of cooperation you would get. So that's super helpful becca had an idea of five senses related idea. She wrote. I had an idea for planning my summer that involves the five senses I'm going to take each weekday and assign a sense to it. It's a reminder to me to focus on that sense for the day will also be the springboard for ideas. When my children complain about being bored, I can say well today is smell day. What would you do to celebrate? It maybe go on a walk and smell the different kinds of flowers to find your favorite smelling one or even visit a floral shop or a bookshop go outside and dance in the rain here in utah. The rain has a very distinct smell because of living next to the great salt lake and most people who live here,

love the smell or even just spend the day noticing if we're at the pool noticed the smell of sunscreen chlorine and the snow cone you're eating. Can I say I never noticed five days of the week five senses of correspondence before it. This is so obvious. Yes, how did this not make it in If your book, I don't know it's like the poor tendencies, I'm like I need to write volume. Two, I selfish to say I keep thinking of things about the five senses that I wish I'd put in there. So I think this is the great identity that be really really fun. It's fun to make the days of the week distinctive we ve talked about that was chores. wash on monday iron on tuesday there's something that's very satisfying about associating something with a particular day of the week. I think this is a great idea. Yes, you could maybe make your collected sense, the one for friday whenever you want to do so anyway, back a thank you for that great idea ass. So this week

try. This at home is to observe halfway day so July. Second, this coming up halfway day and its helpful to set resolutions and aims for ourselves, because no surprise research shows that when we set specific games were far more likely to achieve them, we're a big fan of all different ways of setting aim. So we have the one word theme, Elizabeth. We will talk about our one word: themed, that's a fun way to set aims, the twenty three for twenty three list. That is, very, very popular. We hear every year from so many people who do a twenty three and twenty three less and then also the yearly challenge which we have done, which was walked twenty and twenty than reed than rest, and then this year's god side, twenty three and twenty three, which people are loving so but listen. It's time to unroll, are name for these three things right. There's the one word theme that twenty three and twenty three and the challenge and we decided to call it happier. Trifecta too,

Twenty, the airy it's the happier trifecta said the trifecta is the umbrella term for the twenty three and twenty three, the challenge and the one word thing, because we see that people and you don't have to do all three. It's just that it refer to this family of how to approach, because people really like thinking this through and often will do all three or two of the three as a way to frame the coming here and then again happily day is a way to check in and say I am I doing what I want or do. I need a course corrector, I even when it is member. What's on my list which, for me, I was like life round about a couple of examples since helpful to use halfway day so for anybody whose at all confused about what we're talking about these are three tools that we ve had and we ve decided to group them together, and so the happier trifle and every year we can set are happier trifecta and then view. It I haven't way day, which is Joe. I gotta go now. If europe purest like,

me you may be thinking hey, but doesn't it trifecta mean a bet in which the person picks the three finishers, the first second and third winner in correct order? Yes, it did mean that, but now acceptable usage has broadened and so trifecta can be used to mean three wins: three desirable things: three grand events, so that is now accepted usage. I refrain from using trifecta, because I thought I should just limit that that extremely precise meaning, but now that meaning has broadened- and we embrace it- the happier trifecta is these three things now in episode for eleven, we unveiled are happier trifecta for twenty twenty three, even though we did not call it the half your trifecta, because we hadn't come up with a term yet, but we had our one word theme or annual challenge and our twenty three and twenty three so Elizabeth halfway days here, let's start with your one word theme how's your,

words, seem working out yeah, so my one word theme is scale which had a lot of different meetings, I'm doing great on weighing myself every day that was a big part of it is using the scale every day every day that I'm not out of town where there isn't a scale. I have weighed myself, I've been recording. and the happier than in my habit truck journal now gretchen as discussed weighing yourself is not something that everybody wants to do many people don't like dealing with the scale, but for me it's incredibly Helen. So again, it's what's right, rio. May it super hopeful. I'd also talked about the scale in terms of scaling our business. Now that's very hard to do during the work of course. So that's kind of guy and by the wayside. Although Sarah and I are working on our novel, which I'll get to on my list, so I things

Well, overall, I'm happy with how I'm doing with my theme, but then there was also like scale a mountain, and that also leads into your twenty three and twenty three list. Yes, that's true because I'm doing prime and canyon a lot as, for my list and scaling the mountain of destroy us scaling the mountain of this which you didn't even know you act as if it were to happen there was talk of it, but it was not certain when the year began. Okay, so that so scale seems like it to be a really positive. One word theme now and steer twenty three and twenty three. So first was do the framing canyon hike. You thought about doing forty six, because that twenty three plus trade through, but you decided that fifty is more exciting. How is that going for you he's goin great, so I call on my frame and fifty gretchen, I'm add speaking of forty six, I'm at number forty, seven, forty six like I'm we're only and halfway day how yeah. I told sir I'm upping it to eighty ok, so my new goal is eighty and euro tracking.

In the out. Ok, so that's great flaws every night as well as in the morning mixed success. I am definitely flashing more at night, not every night. I still need to get to that. Every night mark helped by gradually recently gave me for my birthday, some fun flavoured ass, so I'll be use. Yet I beg you listeners because I did not know that such a thing existed, but several people said Alice. You should try this that I thought this is an reading luxury that might make housing more fun, or at least four interesting for a while and then ok, get back in your wedding rings that you have been able to worsens jack was born. Yes, so I have warned my wedding rings a bunch of times. My fingers are not at a point where I wear them. Twenty four seven depends on how much salt I have had, I think, but I have been wearing them on a fairly regular basis. So I'm counting that is good. Excellent hike in oh hi, with Sarah you're running partner unhappy in hollywood, podcast

now. That was one of the easiest ones that I haven't done that, but I will but that's good it's good to have a few easy ones to keep going number five take a trip with friends. high school have not done that, but I have spent time with many of my from high school, so I call that a half ok get the perfect small cross. Body bag. Still working on that one grudge use your packing cubes grudge. I have used my packing cubes. All I am. I am now a packing cube per Ok, because we were very puzzled by the packing cube enthusiasm your your your been persuaded. Can I a hack of yours in cuba, hack, which is that when you are travelling, what's great a vacuum and even are bringing maybe a couple of empty packing cues because what's greatest to use them also for dirty once you ve worn something then put it back of packing q

It helps us to organise the dirty from the clean clothes. That's good number, eight red twenty three novels by reading not includes listening to well on track, for that should not be a problem happy to say excellent during the potential strike, which is now no longer potential strike line, a novel yeah so sara. I have a very broad outline of a novel and we have started writing so this is one hundred percent. A win. This is great You are well under way that is so exciting number ten tropical ball. I tried pick a ball. I did indeed tropical by one time, but that counts. Oh yeah, obsolete gate year my song group, going again: yes gretchen, it's not the same group, but I am in another margin group happy to report love. It is She is always love. Those tiles always carry clean next I'd, say about eighty percent on that one very

Early now, do I not have kleenex what I need it. I loved it at yours. Are such a mix of gigantic and, like always, carry kleenex and write a novel. It's like okay number. Thirteen get to body scans. I have not done that gretchen. I need to do that. and I can do that, but I need to do my first one soon or there'll be no point in doing too so I gotta put that The agenda for the next two weeks, ok, This is one that I think sounds like so much, but it needs to carry over, which is to walk to malibu I haven't done that, and can I tell you I'm embarrassed because my friend, who I'm supposed to do it with got tired of waiting for me and she actually did it with someone else. So, oh and she's more than willing to do it again with me, but I need to do it. I have a fear by think of not having the state I gonna, but I need to just go for it. She said it really wasn't that hard, but she is in amazing shape, but nonetheless, how long did it take? You know I didn't ask her. I will ask number fifteen finish your will and oh my gosh,

sinners, you're, so wonderful and how we ve gotten so many tips and hacks and suggestions and urgings and Elizabeth. Everyone is ruding free. You has, I believe, the base, summer will are finished. I actually have to check on that, but I will. I think that I can check that off, at least in the most basic way. Ok, they will double check, but I think that's a checkmark, oh my gosh. If so, that huge, you gotta get yourself a major major major offer that so you think you're out, while this one go outside twenty three minutes: by doing well, I have to admit when we had so much rain and allay, I did kind of fall off the there's, no bad weather, just the wrong clothes.

Ah my missed a few days, but almost every day I made it and I've been lagging a photo from outside and my happier app my outside twenty three and twenty three tool well, and also now that you're picketing. That probably makes this makes it easier. Yap is you're outside doing that, have an extended Fierro family party to make up for the endless missing christmas, which I am the last year. Yes, I haven't done, I yet I mean to tie, build out and daisy nachos stamina, so they can go on hikes. I think I have built up their stamina. walking them a lot and you know we're in a very hilly neighbourhood. Yes, that have not. Build it up enough, so that is in progress. Mk nineteen upgrade your home office grudge, haven't touched it ok, while you and I both are thinking that we need to upgrade our offices so we'll sidebar on that number, twenty throw out your gross t shirts. This is one of these things. That's both hard

Do and easy to do you like. Why is it so hard to do something so easy have not thrown out micro, seashore thousand and our points? get another robe get a new robe. Did Adam got me a wonderful new robe for christmas, which I've been wearing every day of great. You love a robe number twenty two come up go away for a night with Sarah and korean. There have not done that that we have talked about it and I think this summer we will do it and then number, one in three. Well, this wasn't one that was in your control. It was to do season three of fantasy. islands. Yes, I was gonna, manifested and grab my skills of manifesting. Hailed me, oh because we got cancelled Maybe I need a pick another. Twenty. Three, yeah! That's right to a substitution. What in that thing that was within your control, was you could manifested? But in fact manifesting is not. Is that an infallible?

strategy is a baby instead, gretchen all manifest a fair deal for writers in hollywood, cave that seen my new twenty three and that will hopefully, by the end of the year, will have a good deal. Ok, all right! Let's do it! Ok, so that your track factor, you did the twenty three and twenty three, the one word theme of scale and the go outside twenty three and twenty rate and coming out gretchen we're gonna hear about your happier, trifecta twenty twenty three. First, this brain. At some point, we all make a decision. Will we try to bring children into the world for some Well, it is a question for others, it isn't a choice, but many of us have to grapple with whether and how we want to create family and community join host, actually see forward as she navigates the question for herself and talks with thirteen incredible guess, including Elizabeth gilbert, chastity

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I'm kind of visual to accompany a one word theme, it's very fun to play with that. It was partly would having a new book come out and that I wanted to wave to everybody and give everybody a big wave, as I went out into the world to do a book tour which I loved, it was so fun to go on a book tour and then kind of like writing. The wave just being full of enthusiasm, in writing the wave into the future so yeah. I think my one word theme has been going really well in one or two Is that now that eleanor's graduated one of things I want to do in this new transition is to be more social? I want to be waving two people more and more waving hello to people more and more. So it's it's something that I've done and something that I want to keep our god. Let's find my favorite words that you ve had as wave. Now it's a good word. Ok, let's go through your lists and see how your doing number one visit the mad, but have this year. It's not gonna be on your list right, so for writing life in five senses. One of my most ambitious exercises was to visit

not met every day, but that years long over and I still visit the men every day, and so I put it on my twenty three and twenty three. but I think from now on, it'll just be part of my daily life. I just I love going to them at every day, so I wouldn't use it for twenty four and twenty four, because this is something that I want to do every day, but you have been doing it. yes number to another piece of our happier: trifecta go outside twenty three and twenty three. Yes, this is the annual challenge to go outside twenty three and twenty three. Yes, I've been doing it, but one of the things I realized is that it kind of a pleasant surprise is that as a new york city person, when I started paying close attention to how much time I was spending outside, I realized just like going about my daily business. I would almost always hit twenty three and twenty three, but I tried to have intentional time or in the park and try to elevate it. But I spend more time. side, then I realized that those that were splendid now number three catch up on photo albums. Oh you I caught up and now I'm behind again it's the perennial task, it something that you can only cross

briefly right anyway. I was caught up and now I need to catch up again. Thirty days of cultures, explain what that is. this again is about embracing this new stage of life, empty nest or new metaphor on it's way or one of thirty straight days of culture? I live in new york city. I could do stuff every night and I want to just do it for thirty days straight. I think I'm going to do this in October cause. I want to pick a month where I dunno I'm just trying to figure out the right month. I think it's going to be october, so I'm still planning to do that great Number five tackled one difficult emil per day. I have not been doing this at all. What it often means is that I need to like listen to a pipe cast up a soda watch, a video or make a difficult decision like figure something out. So often it's not the email, it's the activity that the ema represents. I have not been doing this, but I still want to do it because it would be such a relief to get these done. So, ok, this

in a double down now tat seven make hair cut appointment every seven weeks. No, not even tried, have now done no or I grow, get on it number seven by new underwear, no haven't done need to do it haven't done it. I bought some new under ok. Let's get in a hates have a summer of re reading. I have started my I remember. Reading I haven't made much progress. I started the life of Samuel Johnson, which I love. I haven't finished it yet, but I'm planning on doing it may be more like the summer fall and winter every reading, but okay, good night be more systematic about connecting with friends and colleagues. I would give this a half. I think I've sort of done it, but not as systematically as I want so I want to I want to. I want to get better about this, but I'm better than I was so. I've made progress, but I am not at the point that I aim to be alright. Progress, not perfection ass. We say yes to this. One cracks me up number ten by aeroplane genes, ok! Well, I bought something that some

we said. Oh, these are even better than airplane jeans and I bought them and they're, basically like a yoga pant, which is great because nobody loves a yoga pant more than I do, but I actually want a pair of jeans because sometimes you want jeans for whatever reason, so I I feel like I still feel like I'm an airplane cheese Ok, you still need this airplane genes. This assuming we talked about help Elinor, get a driver's license and elizabeth to make a will. Look at this. that related to being a happiness bully seems like you your will. So maybe I can take that as a partial, when I have not helped Elinor or eliza d get driver's license, so that needs to get done. K number twelve get a direction for your next book. No and I think I had my boy come alive and licences and then I was giving the high school commencement address, which occupied a big place in my head. Of course. we decided getting through all of graduation, but now I feel like I really can turn to what is next and I

so many ideas, it's so fun to think about. So I'm very excited, but no, I have not. I have not figured that out, but I'm excited to do it. Thirteen twenty three seconds of sensory, delight This is easy. I love this and now I'm always like a beautiful textures, a beautiful smell. Look at that thing. Yes, I easily do this for teen, where make up every day? Yes, Are you astonished, I'm a mess? I mean every once in a while. Nobody basically aware make every day, and the thing is now I'm trying to do more videos and photos and is one of these things worth. If you do it more. In our analysis, I talk about this all the time. It's like I'm an all or nothing person, I'm an upstanding are not a moderator from I go to the med every day. For me, it's easier to do things every day than to do them sometimes, and I think that I didn't realize that four make up. It would be the same why its actual easier for me to do it every day than to do it some days- and this is just again- and this is an insight into my own nature,

that I keep experiencing over and over, but then I don't think about it, which is its Julie easier for me to do something all the time and sometimes, even though that seems very counter intuitive anyway. I I'm doing that and is much easier than I expect, and I've notice of wearing make up every day as making you wear, all of your prettier clothes gazprom I'm upping. My game does K. Fifth, work on your muse machine. Yes, I'm so excited if you read life in five cents, as you read about the muse machine, it's kind of taken a different form because it turns out rolodex, is- are very strange creatures to work with, but state and, if you're, ensuring that the idea of muse machine there will be more on that it is happening. Yes number. Sixteen time, capsule for twenty twenty three at idea, we talked about in episode for one I don't know, What is it I'm kind of losing interest in the time capsule I kind of want to just cross that off the list. What do you

kind of yeah for some reason, I'm it hasn't captured me? I haven't found things for the time capsule. So maybe I mean for me it's kind of a big years We think that it would be very time capsule, but I dont know why. Maybe time capsule needs to be a period of time, like child yeah or maybe like Elinor, should do a time capsule of her great school in high school year eyes. I wanna keep thing king about whether it but right now I feel like and done it and be. I don't feel that excited to do it so you're learning that go I think so- gay ass people for names of journalists who might be interested in your book the married, I didn't tons of outrage, sharp, that's done! Eighteen, start a new group. I have I dunno not, but I've talked to people about it, and so I'm edging up to it. But again, I feel like with this. Transition in wanting to be more social and waving at people, it's all tied together. Some excited about the you love a group. I lie a group of other grew in love. I love a group,

nineteen, slow time to advance or a novelty yeah. Ok, so this is a classic. idea for resolution. Let me just say, because that is too vague. no better than that, because what that even mean on any one day. Do you know if you've slow time through adventure, novelty our mother had a great suggestion about how to make it specific. She was like once a month pick a place in new york city that you've never been. That is not within walking distance and go and just investigate it ground. This is a great idea. I did it for several months loved it Do it for april and may did do it in june, so this idea I have a an aim has evolved to be much more specific and I've done it several times, but not perfectly consistently. So I get a kind of half chuck okay getting the number twenty embrace a year of transition? Yet why

talking about that, because eleanor's graduated, I want to figure out how to make the most of its. I want Think it through. I want till, I kind have a philosophy, so that's in prague, twenty one. This is very much a grudge review the list on the twenty third of each month, in fact so mad? I forgot about it, and I haven't been doing it, but it's a good idea, so I'm going to start doing. It is a good idea. Yeah, okay, twenty two add a my thirty minutes to your calendar. Each workday explain what that is. Ok, so this is the thing that this It is a repeated to merit. This is clearly something that I want to do and I keep not doing it, and this was a way to try to do it, which is there's a certain kind of work that I need to do that. I call review in my I and what review is I have this book? then I checked it out from the library because for whatever reason, I thought it would be interesting, but I'm not a hundred.

I'm sure so I need to sit down and look out at examine it and think it through and review it and see like is something that's worth reading the whole thing, or should I just return it to the library or maybe I bought a book, and unlike is this a book than is useful for me or not or is there? Some document that I need to think through and just feeling is this useful or not such related to note taking its related to research? It has to do it like sorting materials and for whatever reason, I don't do that as consistently as I should. If I did review consistently, it would really be very helpful. In other areas of my work, it's a version of power. Our and I dont know why then I enjoy doing review so I dont know why I do not do it, so I was trying to refrain and elizabeth coastline classic refraining at by doing at thirty minutes a day that so maybe all redouble my efforts and We try to say I've actually put the thirty minutes on the counter which I, as an upholder, that really works for me, and I have not done that. I will

when every day, but I didn't actually put it on the calendar, so maybe I'll drive out, because I really do think it would make my work easier. Yes, maybe we need to make that a try this at home yeah do other people have. This need do thank while they probably of their own I kind of need that similar yeah review your day review tomorrow, review yeah or maybe just like- take thirty minutes to do whatever it is. That's the stragglers the days stragglers doubt that okay, finally gretsch twenty three watch a tv show. You missed! Yes, ok! So I got so much pleasure from watching madman, because you, I finally did what you suggested. We watched breaking bad than immediately started that are call Saul that said. These were shows that I missed. I love them, but here's the thing that I've learned it's much better to watch a tv show when everybody else is watching it. We couldn't watch succession when everybody was watching the final season, because we were still catching up with better call Saul and were like. We can't watch too intense

charge tv shows once we don't have the time and we don't have the emotional bandwidth like you into a ali paralysis like I couldn't do that, because I was watching it and so now now I want to make up the tv shows that I miss lake, frightened at lights or tell lasso or the second tier of white lotus or whatever, but idea I want to pay attention to what is timely, because it is fine to be part of the cultural conversation It's a show that I think, oh, I will want to watch this. Try to watch it when everybody else is watching it, because that just is more fun, but for the ones that we miss, there's ones that that I want to go back. I usually watch tv with Jamie. So that's what I'm talking about. We don't do like excellent tv. by myself. I watch the office by myself, but I don't watch madman jamie couldn't take. It was too intense, but better call software,

yeah. Well, so you are almost done with better call Saul, so that is a win for twenty three you watch better, though we will definitely be through both breaking bad and better call Saul. Nice work gretsch. Yes, let us know if you do try this at home and how you're, doing with all your aims, with your happier trifecta whether you're doing the one word theme, the twenty three twenty three, the challenge, god said twenty three and twenty three, maybe you're doing one of those. Maybe you didn't, do those baby you're doing all three of those. Whatever you're doing now that we're halfway day. It's a good time to reflect remind yourself of what you want to do, there's still plenty of time before the end of two thousand and twenty three, so you can make it up. Let us know on instagram, tiktok, twitter, facebook drop us an email at podcaster, gretchen, Rubin, dot com or its always go to the show, notes this your cast com, slash for three six coming up, I have a dinner demerits. First sprang.

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we just stop. Do the abstain or thing right to by saying it. I'm hoping I do it gets. That's that's a good one. Paragraph it's your gold star. I want to give a gold star to someone from my college class. I was at my college reunion, I was with two of my roommates and we were had gone to a panel discussion together and for what It was a gorgeous state, no havens kind of famous words about whether, but it was this absolute spectacular day spring day. So we come out of the way and we sit down on the grass in front of the ss building and all these people milling around, because the panel's over at we're sitting there talking and people watching and somebody who we're going to college with, came up to us and said? Oh look there The three of you are sitting on the grass. It's exactly the same as it was you three beautiful women and we were like. Oh, that is so nice that he saw us sitting. There were like this is exactly

We would do we would just go plop down on the grass in the middle of a big bunch of people sit. There talk people watch as everybody went by and that somebody from the past and not like a close friend of our, ass. A guy we knew was like there. You are sitting just the same as ever, and it was just it was such a wheat. Meant a snapshot of the past collapsing into the present Also, you know how my whole thing is. I want to feel coherence. Connection with. I said I want to feel myself persisting through time. I dunno why that is really important to me, but this is something that I really value and said the idea that he called my attention to the fact that, without even thinking about it or talking about it, we just instinctively dropped back into this old behavior in this old posture. It's just feel like. So much has changed, but this is the same from then until now- and I love it just as much as

loved it that I love it now and that to me as a very pleasing feeling at a very pleasing recognition and my two roommates commented, I too, like we all really were struck by it. So cold start it was a small but very meaningful moment. I've been to resources. this week. Okay, we've talked about the trifecta and if you want resources related to your trifecta, you're happier try the fact that you can go to a happier cast dot com. Trifecta again, you don't have to do all three. You can do the theme you can do. The least you can do the challenge and you know the best time to start a trifecta for twenty when three as january first lifeline, three, the second best, I'm is now you could use halfway day as a catalyst, or you can just pick any day that you want the questioners would say: Why pick any date? Any date is arbitrary. Start your trifecta. Whenever you feel like it, because why not absolutely but anything related to that resources, all sorts of stuff is go to have your cast. Our complex

trifecta and what are we reading Elizabeth he reading? I am just starting so leto by Javier Zamora and I am reading foster by clear keegan For this episode of half, you remember to try this at home observe halfway. in whatever way you want, let us hope we tried it and it'll work for you. How are you doing on all the elements of your happier trifecta or any other aim that you are present thank you to our executive producer, chuck reed and everyone at kane's. Thirteen get in touch gretchen's on instagram and tik tok at gretchen Rubin, and I'm on instagram atlas, craft or email addresses, podcast, a gretchen, rubin dot com. And, if you liked this, oh, please added to your twenty three and twenty three list recommend our show to a friend. We really appreciate it.

so next week, I'm elizabeth craft and I'm gretchen reuben thanks for joining us onward and upward elizabeth. I can't I believe that you, without any fanfare at all, have dealt with the will at least more or less. That's fantastic Yes, my big adam has been very helpful in that. So that's all I'm not quite It's clear where we are because I think he's taken charge of that. But, yes, I think we're set. Should the worst happen. We've got something in place, but you have to tell me when it's like officially crossed off listeners will want to know because the everybody's area learning about labelling have been so nice and offering them their help. Take half he'll be a load of everyone who well done.

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