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She was afraid for her life. I mean I was constantly afraid for her life
since her every morning to see if she was still alive.
On the night of the shooting, my forming, and it was
little after two in the morning and its nicky. She sounded so
mickey ottoman better than
anybody else in this world knew how dangerous he was
that moment. What did she had been asked?
I'm sort of throughout the night. No,
it's let us leave just. Let me leave with the kids not going anywhere people to gun out of the couch and said he would kill her and when she did that the
and fell to the floor. I picked it up to make it an attempt to evade the police and then hide the fact that she shot him.
I found out
mickey is the most gentle loving.
friend we ve ever had everything
She does doesn't for her kids in
and say
it so easy to connect the dots. There are so many instances where I would
this a bruise she attributed to playing with the kids in some kind of accident. We had medical documents demonstrating physical injuries. There were many people who saw her with black eye
with bruisers injuries on her face around on her neck bite marks on her back on march. Well, if that's true, as a prosecutor to apple,
patient to investigate it. Anyone who knew Chris was there is supported.
he was my gymnastics coach. He always
feel safe.
My son never hurt anybody. He lived for Nicky he
for those kids
gentle soul, who was full of life and
turkey is a very good actors. They think of you. The abrupt
We know that it's
popular saying that a woman whose claiming domestic violence is lying
it's not pop
or to say
she was self inflicted injuries. You believe the people who were support
in making Armando were manipulated by. I don't believe christopher abused. Her she intentionally
planned and murdered him when he was sleeping.
the and the
at two way
On september, twenty eight, two thousand seventeen police officer, richards, is silly encountered. A car stopped at a red light, the light turned green and when the car didn't move,
officers who silly says he too didn't airborne too
the drivers attention what happened next, stunned him
An agitated young mother, name, Nicole, lotta, mondo and stocking feed, told him something had gone
terribly wrong at home.
That man.
You see said she.
and abused had tried
to leave and her boyfriend had a gun. I picked it up,
Resources officer? Silly, I think, is in shock that this is unfolding before him. Putnam county, cheap, assisted district attorney, hano kraus woods
and be investigating Nicky story. He doesn't know if there is an end
Well, that's necessary dearer to children in the car, making had called a friend
seeing here on the police dash. Can video the friend
Elisabeth Clifton pulls up and officers asked her
wait in a nearby parking lot. I watched police
see vehicles going at some point. I saw that that the embryo
went back the other way and it didn't have its lights on. So I was afraid as afraid of what had happened
the officers went to Nicky's apartment and found her partner chris grover, who appeared to be sleeping on the couch
said with a single gun shot to the head.
They found the shower running and are broken laptop and the bathtub they brought Nicky too
police station, where she was interrogated by detectives and Elizabeth learned. Frisk was dead.
I never
in a million years had a fear that he would die. I was afraid she would die every day, not long afterwards.
El grover got a heartbreaking visit from the sheriff. He told us that Chris had passed and my first question was
our nicky in the kids. Ok, that right there tells you we had no clue, no clue says
ill that anything was amiss in her sons, life. She describes Chris as kind
and ass. He had a black belt and type one dough and was head gymnastics coach at mister toddy
What do you see that wayland coached within their use is always so happy
full of energy. I mean he was like a rat.
Get running around the Jim. He was a huge kid at heart, huge again and that's where
the two thousand aid he met. A pretty young coach
nicole, not mondo. He was twenty one. She was nineteen
soon they began dating in two thousand twelve, they moved in together and announced. Nicky was expecting their first child sunbeams,
was the excited about being absolutely ecstatic,
He was a proud papa. Chris,
talented amateur videographer made this video
for which he called
coming mom too
years later daughter, Faye, came along those lines.
for everything to him and to
go to gales
as Nicky was an excellent mom. Elizabeth cliff,
and taught a mommy and me music class Nicky attended with Ben one time she came to class with what looked to me like a black eye. She covered herself
completely and even in the summer, she'd be wearing long. Sleeved lying pants have a scarf covering around her neck Nicky's childhood friends, law, mogadishu and re
hawks, also noticed injuries, but didn't press her eye
notice a bruise. You know she would often say you know I was playing with Ben and, like
hit by his guitar. You know it was always something that to me at the time seemed very whose power
laws of I didn't think twice about it
Then one day a man from the gym workforce coast
about Nicky's injuries, she'd seen chris lose his temper in the past
young gymnast in his class concerned
she made an anonymous report to child protective services or cps.
required by law. Cps visit
nikki increases apartment. Before long chris was dead and
He was trying to explain why
me and then he looked out for a. I think she thought she
got them to believe that she had acted out in self defence as opposed to intentionally
Chris grover, thick, obviously country. I think she thought she was going home that night
what nikki did not go home that night. Instead,
she was charged with second degree. Murder increases death. What did you
when they charge nicky with murder. I was heart, broken
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A few weeks after Chris grover's death, friends, family and former students like Mikhail Hughes. He always
head. Let's go kid gathered to release balloons and his honor
in it
really nice to know that, like I was alone supporters of Nicky out, mondo were reeling too.
Her arrest for chris is murder, prompted an outcry from friends. Family and advocate
for victims of domestic violence. For choosing
to defend herself and survive. Nicky may spend the next twenty.
To life imprisonment. Elisabeth Clifton began, organizing rallies and fun razors
I
and also
living the years of terror. She says she went through with Nicky, beginning in April
two thousand sixteen when she decided to confront Nicky
about her injuries, and I sat
that I'm really scared for you and I am
that you're not safe at home Elizabeth
Nicky reluctantly admitted her partner. Chris was abusing her. It wasn't like flood gates, I would say a site
call of acknowledging that yes, this was happening nick,
He stood out to me because of the level of fines.
and that was involved rachel. Louise
Neither is a journalist who spent ten years studying domestic violence for book called no visible bruises
as part of her research on Nicky's case for new yorker article. She read the full court record, an interview, dozens of people. She says Nicky alleged chris
forced himself on her sexually but didn't become violent until after sunburn was born.
and he slammed her head into
your frame of bans, room and then raped her. It happened again said Nicky almost two years later, when she was pregnant with Fang. She sought medical it
in here at Vassar brothers hospital in poughkeepsie.
and a couple of days later, she was standing
The kitchen making eggs for ban and Chris allegedly came in and said you better be making
For me- and she said yes, sir, pretty
sarcastically. He forced her to the ground and took a spoon and held it into the gas flame and spurned her all over her body. With it again, Nicky sought medical attention. The report from the exam states assailant
chris heated up a metal utensil on the gas stove and burn nicky in multiple areas of her body. He was, as far as I understand tying her up. You know I remember seeing the marks around her neck and rests and what he was doing was raping her making feared. Chris was videotaping. The encounters Elizabeth says she and Nicky's therapists push nicky to press charges. Multiple people, in fact trying to get her
to file police reports and she was just petrified. She said that Chris would tell her that nobody would believe her.
She doesn't want to kids taken away from her.
She knew she was in danger. Elizabeth tried to help nikki leave and in the summer of two thousand, sixteen Nicky did pack the kids in the car,
and drive over to Elizabeth house one of the hardest things- I've ever experiences that she would come and she drive and she'd slow down and then
and then go again.
she saw? Nicky DR passed her house over and over again for our
and she was on the phone. Saint conscious command is come in the front door and Nicky just couldn't do it and that's what a domestic violence victim leaving looks like it looks like
series of false starts in this mindset. Her terror of him is stronger than her belief that the system will save her
in two thousand seventeen just months before Chris died, Nicky's
medical help three times from a midwife,
who noted multiple injuries and may rope like birds, states. Chris has a gun and uses it
My body in June vulva, swollen
looks inside out in august, bruised and bleeding chris at gunpoint raped her.
Then in september, came that anonymous call to child protective services.
He called making Chris and said what
come by an interview tomorrow. Suddenly
outside eyes. On them, Nicky said chris left the house that day with a bag full of evidence of abuse, presumably to get rid of it. The next day cps conducted its home visit afterwards Chris went to work and came home that night in a quiet mood at one point, Nicky said he called.
ran to the bed room where he was loading his gun and he wants her to try to load it and it gives her a bullet and apparently she's shaking according to Nicky she
later took a shower and at some point chris, through the laptop in the tub she said
He forced her to have sex with him on the couch, but was
Usually gentle and if you are
domestic violence victim and so
who is usually very vital,
with you, was suddenly gentle yoga,
get that message you're going to understand immediately that that is a good buy. Nicky said she lay for a while on top of chris and believed he was asleep when she tried to get up. He pulled the gun from behind the couch cushions nikki said she got the gun away and pointed it at
here she said he laughed at her and then he said here what's gonna happen, you're going to give me the gun and I'm gonna kill you
am I tell myself and the kids
have no one, and she
that she just lunged and shot shot him in the head
Nicky supporters say for choice. That night was simple: either kill or be killed.
in march of
money. Nineteen nicky on a mondo out on bail at the time when, on trial,
for the murder of her partner. Chris grover
ends and advocates wearing purple the color for victims of domestic violence lined up and support. They stood side by side with loyal chris supporters heartbroken to learn.
Nicky defence would hinge on allegations that huh
abuse her. What are you
people to now
Chris didn't do this
son. Never hurt anybody.
That's the bottom line
video cameras were not allowed inside the courtroom here at the duchess county court house than forgive see. Prosecutors argued that Nicky painted herself as a victim, but that
allegations of abuse, we're untrue. She was not there
In this case, Chris was the victim in this case, and that became very, very apparent prosecutor, Hano kraus. I spent much of her career advocating for victims of sexual violence. Kraus too
yours, the physical evidence, was overwhelming, starting with the fact that Chris was killed with a direct contact wound to the head
the medical examiner testified that the muzzle of the gun that was imprinted increases head meant. It was embedded in his head when she pulled the trigger crowd, said Nicky, not chris, through the laptop in the tub, in an attempt to make it look like first had evidence to hide she and expect the laptop to be rich
third, in a way that we could still examine it and determine that there was absolutely no evidence of abuse on that laptop and crowds presented a series of tax nicky sent chris just days before he died, calling him in man, child
and asking w e f is wrong with you. Are you this stupid? She was
one who was abusing him in these messages when they communicated throughout the day?
then there were internet searches on christmas phone. The night he died, kraus believes making made them. If you
shoot someone in their sleep while the police know fifteen minutes of searches.
that are a road map to exactly how he was murdered.
Even more damning, was attacks. Nicky sent a friend six weeks earlier
haven't figured out a way to kill him without being caught. So I'm still here, Nicky punctuated the text with a grimace mogi, which her lawyers say clearly shows she
joking, yet, several weeks later, he was dead so that quite a coincidence, kraus acknowledges Nicky.
a traumatic experience when she was just
Five years old Nicky was raved on us
both were at of friends house. The rape was witness by
another child nicky.
Tell any one at the time, but her friends say it have
lasting impact, so if we want to have sleep
first is that we would always go and sleep at her home. She never ever slept,
at one of our houses is nikki, said the
salt made her uncomfortable with sex as an adult which she confided to Chris
began dating?
about a year. They did become intimate because he cared so much about her, and that was who he was. He never changed. Chris didn't change, says kraus,
nicky grew into someone who invented stories of abuse. She never reported these allegations to police, but this story spilled out
over the years to friends and therapists, prows told the jurors
these accusations began before making met Chris when she accused and ex boyfriend.
I have assaulting her. What are they going to think if she alleges every relationship she ever had was non consensual? Would they believe what she said about Chris a few years after she began dating Chris? Nearly a decade ago, Nikki told her therapist that
Agnes worker, at her mothers apartment, complex, raped her, making
It said her memories of the time were unclear and she was
sure which abuse was by the maintenance worker or Chris. How do you not remember
which abuse was by the maintenance worker and which abuse
is by your partner around the same time
he met a married police officer who invited her to become
live in baby sitter with his family. He was the parent
a child who was coached by the defendant and at one point chris grover, as well crosses
They began a relationship that lasted several years, including after Nicky lived with chris and was pregnant with Ben nick.
said than marry police officer, also forced himself on her sexually. There were so many other men so which one
where she talking about Nicky support.
What are his? These aren't false allegations. They are true and author
Rachel Louie Snyder, says: child victims of assault often grow up to become victims again. The fact that Nicky was assaulted when she was five years old means that, as an adult she's put into a much higher risk category, in fact, it would mean
or two thirds more likely to be victimized as an adult, but prosecutor crowds told the jurors that in making the case there is proof her allegations were false and that her injuries, often
had an innocent explanation. The bruise on the eye was from Ben hitting or in the eye with a guitar. It's not rocket science. It was wit
seen Ben hit her with it. The medical records were clear cut either according to kraus, including that first visit Nicky paid to this hospital when she was pregnant with fe,
and was asked a series of questions to which she answered. No is abuse inflicted
with tools. Now I do you have burned.
Does he burn? You know kraus
it wasn t until Nicky returned a few days later that a nerve
noted those burns. So what
think that means I think she does
to go back a second time and be able to answer yes to every single one of those questioned. What she was saying was happening was completely inconsistent with the evidence we refer
being as our investigation when I and so Nicky faced a huge risk that day when cps came calling says, kraus per inventions of abuse would be exposed to kraus. That was
making motive for murder. She was concerned. The child protect services would know this manipulated history that she put out. There was not truthful,
that she might lose her children. When seen in this light, kraus argued nick
story of what happened. The night Chris died quickly. Unravels
a pretty young mother eliciting sensibly
was never what she seemed. I think people need
I understand what really happened here and what really
and here chris grover,
asleep when she killed him. That's what happened here.
seem
photos from the case on facebook. At forty eight hours.
The
It was time for attorneys, John and Gracias and been asked her to present the defence
and nicky out among those murder trial. They say she lived in constant danger and believed she would die the night Chris grover died. You have a woman with no prior history of violence, no prior criminal history. At all. We know that too often, women who have sought help end up in a body bag. That was
she was confronted with on that evening. The lawyers would need to convince a jury that Nagy acted in self defence and shot Chris to say
her own life. So they called witnesses to corroborate nicky's, claim
He was brutally abused by Chris. For years there were psychologist nurse midwives who were fearful of the abuse than Nicky was undergoing. There was a police officer testified at our trial. He was ready to send police officers to affect them.
rest, they produced photos documenting mickey's injuries and argued that Nicky's wounds could not have been self inflicted bonds to face the point of leaving a blister burned to the breast. She had bite marks on her shoulder blades. You can't reach your own shoulder blades, what about them?
marks on her neck on her back places that she couldn't reach. How do you know if any of those injuries actually came from crest, and not one of the other individuals that
She was claiming she was involved in a relationship with, but Nicky's lawyers
They, the other men brought up by the prosecution, were an attempt to create confusion and that nikki hadn't had sexual relations with any one but chris for years before his death, so that kind of fog that they created was shaming mickey away- and it's not relevant to the case of whether MR grover was
Victimizing her with intimate partner violence, they insisted the aggressive tax snaky sent Chris were ways to stick up for herself and said she paid for them afterwards. When Chris hid her it's not on carbon, for people to use work
to fight back. The lawyers reminded the jurors that the internet searches about how to kill someone who was sleeping. They were made on christmas phone with no evidence that Nicky made them
and the medical examiner testified, there was no proof. Chris was sleeping. Doktor newman said it could have happened exactly the way. Nicky said it happen. They called making herself to the stand so that yours could hear from her directly
What did you tell her day, one day to tell the truth just to tell the truth, the truth, never changes, Nicky story did not change.
Visibly shaken and sometimes in tears, nagy told the court that Chris lashed out, when he felt disrespected, beat her raped her choked her and left her tied up for hours.
four laura mogadishu watching her friend testify was hard breaking. It was three full days of her up there being interrogated and having to relive the trauma that she experienced. Nicky told the jurors that after Faye was born, Chris began watching pornography constantly and would try to recreate the porn with Nicky Nicky attorneys presented photos most to graff
to show which nagy claim chris posted without her consent on porn hub, a pornographic video sharing website. The videos had key words like found in pound or
a bitch or just really ugly, disrespectful language. The jurors saw the photographs
but they didn't see the ugly words or the information on the post about the user who uploaded the images someone called grover, respect like Chris grover does
right himself. As a twenty nine year old cinematography who loved martial arts, the judge
There was no way to prove Chris created it. Grover respect was who posted the porn hub videos, which were clearly our client. There was other residents. Jurors, did not see, including the full medical report from two thousand
Fourteen and these midwife exams documenting injuries this summer before Chris died,
in some ways her case was cut off at the knees from the start. It's not uncommon for some evidence to be excluded at a murder, trial and prosecutor. Hon across believes this was excluded,
for good reason. She argued that Nicky may have made the porn herself. There
no way to identify a man in the photos and it wasn't rape. Does that look like someone is taking part in a consensual act
believes that was consensual with absolutely Nicky's tat,
de may not have changed many mines
She would say one thing and then in the next breath she was saying something else right
stand. You could see that it wasn't the truth. Music teacher Elisabeth Clifton did testify for nick
defence, but wasn't asked about everything. She'd sea, including
one day in two thousand? Sixteen when Nicky said
she was having a miscarriage. The amount of blood dislike puddles apply,
on the floor and
clothing, stand Elisabeth, believes curses abuse, cause the miss carriage and says Nicky was afraid to go, see a doctor because, Chris
would get angry. I witnessed her suffer through a horrible painful
where she was almost unable to speak, because she was in so much pain miscarriage because she was afraid to hospital
Laura did not testify at the trial, but this photo of nick
in a bridesmaid dress, said laura's wedding was a defence exhibit to document a burn on Nicky's chest?
laura says it's an example of how the prosecution and not nick
manipulated the story and she
is what I believe was a burning.
from a curling I because her hair was clearly just curled, Nicky's hair was just curl, says laura because the bridle
already had just gone to the hair salon together. She says the mark was big and oval shaped and was old and already healing when they go
to the salon, and it was a birthmark from a heated metal spoon.
There was no question.
After fourteen days of testimony that case finally went to the jurors who,
have to decide what
guiana mondo terrified victim ormond
Amulet is liar,
the.
after three days of deliberations finally averted,
ray of eight women or men rejected nicky item on those claim of self defence and convicted her of criminal possession of a weapon and second,
degree murder. I get punched in the stomach really hard. This for her was the worst possible verdict, twice traumatic,
she so tiny and cheese sitting there and people thinking she's real criminal, and I just wanted to hug
Chris grover's family and friends found some comfort. At last thing
somebody was listening and for once,
little bit of relief because they had drunk
surfers name through the mud, so bad and turn them into this monster that he was not did you feel vindicated
never about me. I felt happy for christmas family,
He got to the point where they heard the jury say guilty, but the case wasn't over yet under an
data in new york, state law, the domestic violence survivors, justice act, Nicky was entitled to another day in court hearing were her claims of domestic violence and might be factored in
to reduce her sentence? I wrote a letter to the judge explicitly saying like these: are these the situations in which it was specifically cleared
that was christopher
moreover, who is hurting her judge, edward mclaughlin, who also
presided over Nicky's murder, trial heard from other way.
This is an from the prosecutors who argued that,
He wasn't a real victim had access to services and she could have left
set any time, including the day he died. She in a car
should the means to leave if she was concerned. If any of this were truthful, she had the whole day to leave. But author rage
we Snyder, does believe Nicky and says expecting a victim of domestic violence to leave is misguided
absolutely your most likely to die, leaving the research points
over and over and over snyder, says Nicky did avail herself of services, but especially with two very young children at home?
She couldn't figure out how to get out a lie. In fact, on the night Chris died nagy told the police officers that she asked
is to let her go at least said,
The teen times they said, let me leave plenty when I walked for anything and Nikki repeated that he said, you're not leaving. I tried to leave
I represent a young woman who laughed
Eleven months later, she was killed, leaving doesnt protect.
and leaving isn't the answer. What about the research that shows women who try to leave it there more likely to be harm? I dont dispute that at all,
I just don't believe she was a victim here. I believe that she created all of this and of forty seven page ruling.
Released in february of twenty twenty, the judges,
julie sided with the prosecution saying Nicky was
these steps from her front door. The night Chris died and could have left.
He also said her inconsistent statements about past abuse, made it impossible to know
the identity of her abuser. He didn't
Nicky's request for a lighter sentence, the reasons
Sickly boiled down to, she could have just laughed and who knows who was abusing her? Nicky supporters insist
they know exactly who was abusing her crests chris governing.
His name is in those documents and the
documents were submitted to the judge in his
is there.
Over and over and over again, but to this day christmas friend
in former students
then, the man they knew everybody loved Chris. He would go above and beyond for everyone you never sullen get upset. You never saw it
at the gym he always made us feel safe, and I don't believe that he was ever capable of like any tabled harm. Someone can be a wonderful person in
of situations and still be an abuse her in the same way that someone can be a wonderful person and still be a victim.
On February. Eleven Nicky supporters gathered once again outside the poughkeepsie courthouse this time
sentencing hearing
The system didn't get system got it right. We need to make sure that other real
victims that around their true victims of domestic violence, understand that we are there to help you get out safely to prosecutor, Honneur crowds,
they are sending a dangerous message. I think schumann
laid them. I think she was monopoly,
everybody around her looks him she may
well be manipulative. I I have no idea right, but was she the victim?
sustained and extremely
severe abuse. Yes,
Absolutely no doubt. In my mind, Nicky was
tend to nineteen years to life in prison, the groves
family is now focused on the kids. Then in Faye live with Nicky's relatives and spend weekends with the grover's
That's what means the world right now. Those kids Nagy drew these pictures of herself with
children while in jail too many. The
outcome of her trial was exactly what she feared all along that no one would believe her
don't believe that a woman was victimized based upon the proof that we had here and what happens when you don't have
visible bruises,
to imagine there's a day some day when shall be free right,
right now that skills very distant.
making some warders continue to raise money to help
fray her legal expenses.
The
The
the
the
An appeals court found that nicole at should have qualified for reduced sentence under the domestic violence. Survivors justice act and reduced her son.
To seven point five years
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