Are you constantly losing focus and wonder why you can't reel it back in? In today's special compilation episode, explore the enigmatic world of attention and focus, an issue we all grapple with in our fast-paced lives. Uncover insights that could transform the way you approach your daily tasks and long-term goals.
- Johann Hari's Odyssey: A revealing journey across America, unearthing the secret forces manipulating our attention.
- Gloria Mark's Studies: A neuroscientist's in-depth look at attention spans and habits, offering unprecedented insights.
- Gretchen Rubin's Tendencies: Explore the four tendencies that shape our response to expectations, aiding in harnessing attention and action.
This episode will make you rethink how you engage with your surroundings and shed light on unseen patterns that determine how we focus. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by distractions, join us in exploring the groundbreaking perspectives shared in this episode. Dive in, take control, and spark new possibilities for your unique attention. Unlock the mysteries of your mind with insights that could change your life. Don't miss this enlightening exploration!
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so have you ever felt yourself getting pulled and her husband directions at once, struggling to focus on any one thing, fully kind of like your attention and focus was just a stretched rubber band about to snap on the surface. Our lives seem faster and busier than ever before, but could there be deeper forces influencing our ability to really home in on what matters to go deep to be present and do good work without feeling constantly fragmented and fractured? I know
I have lost count of the times and it looked up from my phone away to wonder. Where did the last few hours ago
I tried to multitask my way through meetings or emails, even though I know you shouldn't be doing that surfacing with just this hazy. Memory of what just happened or maybe felt the whim of notifications or alerts pulled away from what really lights you up. We have all experienced moments where our attention feels almost uncontrollably scattered and we just can't relate back in. So what determines how we focused why some things grab us while others slip by and maybe what are the hidden forces influencing our distracted days? These are the puzzles I have long sought to solve and in two days, powerful compilation episode we're doing
Deep dive on focus and attention sharing selections from wide, ranging conversations with three really groundbreaking thinkers who have cracked open the mysteries of attention and focus from different angles, Johann hari delves into the revelations that set him on an odyssey to uncover the truth about the forces that are often manipulating our focus in ways. We never realized. Neuroscientists gloria markets, granular, revealing insights from meticulous studies of attention span and habits and gretchen Rubin takes us on a journey to decode the four tendencies shaping how we respond to expectations and, in turn, harness our attention and directed towards action. So whether you feel your focus, fragmenting or just want to take back control, these innovators offer genuine wisdom on unseen patterns and actionable strategies so dive into their illuminating reflections. You never know what insight might spark new questions or possibilities for harnessing your unique attention so excited to share this conversation with you. I'm Jonathan fields- and this is good life project.
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our first guest as johan hurry and internationally bestselling author and pulitzer prize nominated journalist, Johan group in london, the son of a bus driver and nurse and studied at cambridge. His books have been translated into forty languages and praise by thought leaders worldwide, but it was a revelation and grace land of all places that propelled him on an investigative odyssey across cultures, incontinence, uncovering some pretty shocking truths about about the hidden habits. Warping. Our focus in your hand, shares some pretty gripping tales from his travels into the realm of focus with surprising findings revealed by top researchers, you'll learn how technology has optimize distraction and really what must change to reclaim our attention so whether you feel pull than a hundred directions or one I just take back control your hands transformational journey just might spark your own awakening, so here's yon there was also. It sounds like that. There was an inciting, isn't it even before you decide to go deeper into attention and before you have this really fascinating three month experience of providence, which was the relation
with your godson, who had this sort of obsession with Elvis dad
ass a little bit later in life when he was struggling a little bit led to this moment,
with you that awaken due to the fact that
things happening around here. Talk me through the experience of the year.
When he was nine, my god sudden developed this brief, but freakish, really intense obsession with Elvis presley another even discovered how we find out who he was and is particularly acute,
because you didn't know that Elvis had become a cheesy cliche. So I think he was
ass, a person in the history, western civilization, to do
timely, sincere impression of Elvis and
when I talked to him in at night. He would get me to tell him
story of Elvis's life again and again, and
I tried to skip over the bit at the end, where Elvis dies on the toilet, obviously, and
One night I was talking to him
I mention grassland were always lived.
And he said to me your hand. Will you take me to graceland one day and I said sure
in the way you do with nine year olds, knowing next week a bee disneyland whenever
and he said, no do really promise to swear one day you gonna take me to grassland, and I said I absolutely
promise
look at that moment again.
for ten years into so many things are going wrong
he dropped out of school. When I was fifteen
by the time he was nineteen. He spent
It truly is not me situation almost literally every waking moment, alternating between his ipod in his eye phone and his life
was just this blair of what sap ici pornography
the social media sites- and it was almost
he was kind of wearing at the speed of snapchat when
still serious could touch him.
and one day we were sitting on my cipher justness to worm. Talking to you now and I'd be tried
You talked to him all day and just now,
was getting an attraction and speed
an noticed with you. I wasn't not much better.
I'm start mine devices.
And I suddenly remembered this moment, although she is before
the term hey, listen,
it's a relates
completely blankly, didn't remember this and our
did him and I said no less, let's break this numbing routine, let's go all over the south, but you got a problem
one thing, which is that when we go you'll leave you
phone in the hotel. During the day
We talk about it and he said tat. I could see that breaking routinely appeal to him and I think it was too.
weeks later, we took off from heathrow in london to to new orleans where we started
Two weeks later we arrived the gates of grassland and when you get,
That is even before covered.
There's no one to show you around.
happens. Is they hand you an ipad, and you pains me
about the ipad. Shows you around, it says: go left got right,
tells you story about that room and every
guy that the river, when you go into this, a picture that regime on the ipad,
so what happens? Is everyone just walks around graceland staring at their ipads?
it's slightly irritated by this.
We got to the jungle room which was
His favorite room, grassland, its full effect plants,
was a canadian couple next to us, and there has been
and to his wife and said.
Honey. This is amazing. Look if you saw
Left you can see the jungle room to the left and if you
quite right. You can see the jungle to the right and left
is getting an attorney
watch them in there just swiping back and forth an eye
I leaned over- and I said, but hey sir
oh fashion, former swiping you could do it's cold,
turning your head because look
we're in the jungle room, you don't you
look at it on your ipod, we're we're actually there and
looked to me like. I'm is completely deranged and
tat, the room- and I
tend to my godson to laugh about it
and he was standing in the corner of the room staring at snapshot kiss from the minute we landed. He couldn't stop.
And I went up to him and it is something that's never good. They with teenagers. I tried to grab the phone app is handed. I said
I know you're afraid of missing out.
This is guaranteeing the or miss out you. Not.
Why not your life? You not present.
existence
we stormed off, so I wandered around memphis on my own for the rest of the day, and I found him that night at the heartbreak hotel, where we were staying,
down the street and
He was sitting by the swimming pool and I went up to him and he he was just kind of scrolling. Didn't look up at me by
rejoiced in an
and staring snapshot, but he said I know something's really wrong here.
Know what it is, and I
Last week,
come away
to deal with this crisis had been present.
That crisis was everywhere that differ
no escape.
An obvious example that it will be,
virtually everyone who is listening today, unless the very fortunate
went into amendment professor miller, MIT is one of the leading neuroscientist in the world.
Then he said to me: does
One thing you need to understand about the human brain
anything else. You can
only consciously think about one or two things a time? That's it is great.
I met matter attention insight, that's it
this. Is a fundamental limitation of the human brain
the brain is not significantly changed him? Forty thousand years is not going to change on any timescale. Any of us are going to see you. Can I
think about one or two things that time, but what's happened. Is we?
women from mass delusion, the apple
American teenager now believes they can follow six or seven forms of media. At the same time, so
happens. Is scientist get people into labs, not just teenagers adults as well older people as well.
Get them to think they're doing more than one thing at a time and what they
covers always the same. You can't even wanting a time what you do is
juggle very quickly between tasks, your consciousness papers over quite aware of it, but your switching
king switching switching, but what did he
Ask me what was that on the television there? What's this message on? What's that white, what did he just ass megan, your juggling and it
turns out that juggling comes with a really big costs. The technical term for that cost is this
which cost effect.
you're trying to more than one thing at a time you will do
all the things you are trying to you're trying to do much less competently you'll make more mistakes. You remember less of what a day you'll be
created, and this
like a small effect, is a really big effect
Example from a small study that is backed by a very small studies, but by much wider body of evidence, hewlett packard, there
print accompany? Got some
just to study the workforce and split the workers into two groups and the first
It was told.
Just get on with your task. Whoever is and you're not gonna, be interrupted
Secondly, it was talk on with your toss. Whatever is, but you gotta have to answer. Heavy load of email and phone calls
the scientists tested the iq cube. These small groups
that had not been interrupted, scored on average, ten on key points higher than the group had been interrupted. To give you a sense of how big an effect is, if you were me
got stone together now you're in colorado, its legal if we sat down.
But too fast, live together.
Keys would go down in the short term by five points, so many
what time he be better off sitting your desk, getting stoned and not being interrupted,
then sitting your desk?
getting stoned or being interrupted, will, but are not typically you'd, be better off, neither getting stoned nor being interrupted. Obviously, but you get a sense of how big this effect is. This is
professor miller said to me. We live in a pie.
The storm cognitive degradation is a result of all these interruptions. But
What you're getting at your question, which is so important, is why
Currently, using technology
is designed to
Similarly interrupt us right. This is, in my view,
into shorn parker whose, when the biggest initial investors in facebook he said
We designed facebook to maximally distracts people
evade their attention.
We knew what we were doing and we did it anyway,
God only knows what he's doing to our children's brains, that's what they say, and it's really
to understand this mechanism because actually issued
They give us hope, you're the way, big time
want us to think about this debate, is our
protests, or you antitank, right and of course, but also the rapporteur.
Join the amish know. What I want is to no disrespect to any amish people were listening. I guess the cheating if they are- and that's not the debate-
question is not a new protocol antitank. The question is what tech
designed for what purposes working in whose interests so at the moment,
Social media has been designed around one, particularly
this model. It does not have to wear that way. So I,
If you'd like people is combating.
Who designed key aspects of the technology
and our kids use all the time right and
a long time for them explaining it for me to really understand this. So let anyone listening if you are, don't do it, but if you open facebook, now what tiktok or twitter or any of the social major social media accounts apps.
start to make money in two way straight away. The first ways really obvious you see
a cave or listening knows how that works. The second way
much more important every.
you do on those apps- is scary,
and and sorted body
artificial intelligence, algorithms at those apps to build up a picture of who you are
So, let's say that you can
that you like, I don't know but middle
Bernie sanders and you tell your mommy- just bought some diapers okay, so it figures out you liked bette midler and your man you're, probably gay,
betty, saunders, you're, probably left wing and you
look about buying diapers. You must have a baby so that building up
try if they got tens of thousands of data points so that they know who you are.
partly so they can sell you two advertisers your attention they want to sell. All this information are appetizers can target you, because you are not the customer of these acts. You are the product they sell to the
The customer is the appetizer, but more
importantly,
also learning the weaknesses in your attention, so they can
feeding either things that will keep you scrolling, because the more
Frequently you pick up your phone.
and the longer you scroll the more money they make, so all these
engineers in silicon valley. All these algorithms. All these engineering genius is built
one thing figuring out, how can I get you to pick up your phone as often as possible?
scroll as long as possible. It was important.
The standards
social media doesn't have to work that way
different way. Social media can work, is entirely achievable and, as an analogy,
Can history that really help me to think about this intensive and you'll? Remember I remembered from when I was a kid, so
not that long ago. The standard
of gasoline in the united states was leaded petrol right. Let a gasoline and a bit before
before my time periods to pay my hands would lead paint, and it was this
with the exposure to lead is incredibly bad for your brain and particular about for children's ability to focus
pay attention. So what happened?
of ordinary moms. It was mostly mothers bandit,
gather and said
why we allowing this. Why we allowing these companies to ruin our children's brightens is crazy.
Important is what they didn't say. They didn't say
so we're anti gasoline,
it didn't say so- we're anti paint didn't say, battle, gasoline and battle paint that we have been ridiculous. They said
spanned. The specific component
the gasoline in the lead is coming our kids attention they fall
they fought for years. They succeeded as a result, the cdc the setup for disease control has calculus.
The average american child is
two five iq points higher than they would have been had led not been banned right. She can see
to me. This is a really important model. We are
Something in the environment is binding on is harming our attention we ban
together to act on the sites we get rid of that component, while retaining the goods.
If that was around that component in the same way, so as a risk in invented
key part of how the internet works his dad just
Skin invented the apple mackintosh, Steve jobs, eyes
said to me. You know this
an equivalent to the lead in the lead paint he's a ban
current business model for social media at what what
kind of fancy term for surveillance capitalism. He said just tat
say the model, a business model is based on tracking. You surveillance you in order to figure out the weaknesses in your attention, hack them.
That's just inhuman, don't allow it and
also people to say this to me
before I really absorbed it and I'm in
sang to asia
I cannot imagine we do that we ban the current business model and I opened faced
the next day
did you say you know
Sorry, everyone gum fishing. He said, of course, not
what would happen if they have to move to a different business model?
Everyone listening has expired,
of the two different business models: almost everyone the fastest.
Scripture and everyone knows how netflix works. He paced automatic access, another model it about the sewers
Before we had sewers we had faces in the street. We got cholera.
So now we all pay so
to be built and maintained, and we all only serious together, you own the susan, older,
I own the serious in london in LAS vegas, the cities where I live. We own the suit
in the places where we live. It may be
just like we want on the sewage pipes together,
one? Only information pipes together we're getting
equivalent of cholera for our attention. Now, what
alternative business model we cheese is the important thing to understand is all the incentives change.
At the moment. The incentives for social media companies into the ground.
We get you in your kids to pick up. Your phone is often impossible and scroll as long as possible,
these different models? Suddenly you become the customer, they have to go
What is your honeymoon
turns out. Yahoo wants to be to pay attention
design or not to hack his attention, but to hear his attention.
turns out your who wants to meet up with his friends offline, because people through good when they look into each other's eyes, broaden scarlet staring through the screens.
Ok, let's design it to help people me up offline rather than to prevent them from meeting like
incredibly technologically easy. My friends in silicon valley could do that tomorrow. The key thing is
have to get the incentives right to do it and we can
that right. There's no more
The pain
to say one last thing on this James Williams I mentioned before said to me: you know the axe
existed for one point: four million years before anyone
we put a handle on it,
Entire internet has existed for less than ten thousand days we can get
if we want to get
and any one you describe it this way in all make sense, and I think we ve we all feel like we ve been living in that matrix for killing attentive time now. The fact that has happened,
everywhere. The same kind of polarization tells you that there are similar underlying mechanisms, so
just that we have to deal with these
this business model because it is harming
individual attention as facebook's own data. Scientists said it is causing
such polarization. That is, destroying our ability to collect
simply pay attention to our promise to talk to each other, to listen to each other and to solve problems. You know, I think, a lot about
here! You remember this. I remember it well as a kid
the ozone layer, crisis right so younger, listens manner, remember this, but in the end,
he's there was a chemical could cfcs that we'd has brazen fridges and we loved her has broken the eighties that were
into the atmosphere and it turned out they were causing
damaging the ozone layer, which was a protective layer of ozone that surrounds the planet and
access from the sun's rays and it was causing a hole in the ozone layer above the arctic. So what happened?
Science was discovered
explain to the public who were able to distinguish the truth from nonsense. Lies conspiracy theories, the public pressure.
Political leaders all over the world view
different kinds of governments from Margaret thatcher to the communist soviet union all
in response to that pressure, band cfcs and now the ozone layer is healing right now. I do not
if the ozone layer crisis happened. Now tat. We
responded anything like the same way. I think he would get
some people who would do the right thing is I act on science and they re little ozone layer, badges on their lapels and they build a whole identity around it. You would get other p.
He would say. How do we even know the ozone layer exists?
I don't even know it's there. Maybe George soros made the hole in the ozone layer. Maybe evil jewish space lasers made the hole in the ozone, as also of mad filth, would stop being said and we would
not be able to act to all you know
So it's really important. I dont be nostalgic about the eighty seven lots of things from under the eighties, but we got
with these mechanisms, because if we don't deal with this, we cannot happen
anything done right. If we call
talk to each other listening
think rationally, whisk screwed
you writing at the end of the day. Comes down to is something I say on a fairly regular basis. Attention is life,
the quality and the and death of our attention, I think in no small part determines equality and death and lift of our lives individually and collectively. I think this is really what
speaking to in coming out from all these different angles and also saying it
not just about you. Yes, there are things that you ve been doing your individual life, but let's assume the ones out and let's talk about collectively
to really going on here, and let's do some re, imagining a deafening cards folks to dive
into this piece of
because it really lays out and a lot of detail that near your book,
What's really going on also offers a whole bunch of like and and it and it's not fatalistic also, it says this is a tough moment, but there's hope- and there are things
can do and their examples out there. Oh, I'm profoundly optimistic that we can do this and you know when I get
pessimistic. Recent new sites me let these forces are really powerful right, I would say to them
most strange, but when they said
to me.
The nickel about my grandmother's, who I loved very deeply,
my grandmother's, with the age I am now in nineteen sixty three
One of them is a working class scottish living in one in the: u S, we call housing project,
and the other one is the swiss women living in a wooden hot on the side of a man him and in
sixty three when they were the age. I am now
Neither of them were allowed tat. Bank accounts, because there
married women, their husbands had to control the bank. Can it was legal for their husbands to write them, as it was legally
every country in the world for men to write his wife
Swiss grandmother wasn't even allowed to vote to vote until nineteen seventy right.
Think about their lives and how this
They get their lives whereby sexism and misogyny my grandmother's never got tat lives. They should have had enough
his grandmother, love to paint andrew and I told her to shop and get into the kitchen and then
Think about my nieces liked. I don't want to underestimate how far we got to go or how much backlash backlashes happening
but when my niece love to paint and draw wouldn't tell it to shop and get into the kitchen, we start giggling art schools right
even the craziest
deranged rightwing congressmen to some crazy place, wouldn't dream of saying that my,
it should be legal for my needs to be raped and she shouldn't be allowed to have a bank account and she didn't have the vote right. That would be
unthinkable right
and when people say to me let these forces you're saying we have to take on a really powerful. I say to you, I say to them: you're, damn right, then no one.
just as powerful as men were. Nineteen sixty three men controlled
really every institution, a power in the world. Every company.
Every country, everything right,
had ever since those institutions have been created, except for huge few hereditary queens along the way right. The way,
and if that generation did not give up, they got up
and they fought, and they said we're not gonna. Take this anymore and I argue in the book
stress, can their own dozens of things we can do as individuals right now
no individual lives and I am strongly in favour of all of that and talk about it, I argued
deal with this in the medium to long term. We just
we needed a native feminist movement for women to reclaim their bodies in their lives.
we need an attention movement to reclaim my mines and absolute
leave, we can do that. We don't
tolerate this. We don't
to accept
Our minds
and our children's mines being diminished in the way that they are right now right,
these are relatively recent changes. They are not acts of god there. Now. You know man
the things that have been done by humans and their things that can be undone by humans. But this
happened by accident. If we do nothing
of all of us do nothing that these policies,
continue to pillage and writers and I'll get better and better on it. And then we're ready pretty damn good right.
but they're. Not gods
huckaback is a rather weak mediocre bazin bright. We can note
respect Jamie's, not the devil, but
it is also not the impressive. We can push back against this. If we want to write, we can
absolutely deal with this, but we have to understand
Twelve underlying causes of sea touched on a few wasted.
Deeply understandable to follow the example of those mothers who didn't know
my kids to be poisoned with lead right,
there was a lot led. The lead industry was really powerful, they didn't just say, oh well. What can we do? Let's individually, try to dust our homes, more
who called these forces and as a result, you no date, they won right,
can win this one, but we have to fight
Elizabeth Warren said once you don't get what you don't fight for and Cosima
Really frightened by the agreed that is before us politics or not that the principle is
Should it be right, you don't get where you don't fight for their powerful point, fears I get
place for us to come. Full circle not conversation as well, so
as reason. The ones out little bit and agenda sit here in this container of good life project. If I offer the phrase
live a good life but comes up.
to live a good life. You have to have a mixture of you know. We want speed and busyness and distraction. That's a healthy part of life, but you have to
space to think deeply and reflect
and rest. You don't think about something.
Basic as we sleep twenty percent less than we did a century ago right
We deny denying ourselves even the most basic
physical need for sleep right,
which is having a disastrous effect on our attention is doctor charles size, their other medical school said to me, even if
nothing else it changed, but that we sleep twenty percent less than we used to that alone.
would be causing a huge crisis in our attention is focused, so a good life is
a life where we have depth as well
buzzy moments of excitement and speed right. I'm not I'm not
everyone's go into the room and read a book all the time we want to have both.
almost everyone wants to have. Both they want to be able to think deeply are. They would have moments of fun in bars and speed, right
You gonna way too far towards
everything being
vast acceleration, constant switching
We can recalibrate and we have to recalibrate,
thank you. I really enjoyed this. Thank you so much I meant to say my publishes tells me that the because events-
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So you hunt story really nice curiosity round hidden habits of focus by understanding these unseen influences as his journey showed. We can gain empowering insights. Our next
asked is doctor Gloria mark chancellors, professor of informatics, at using irvine and for over fifteen years she has taken a granular look at how technology impacts, focus through rigorous studies from
extensive research, examining distraction, multitasking and moods online see really seeks to understand attention. In physics like precision and by closely observing everything from how long we really spent on each task to correlating interruptions with stress levels, she gets technical with attention to reveal hidden habits, so whether you feel perpetually paul than a dozen directions or want to optimize focus our findings. Just me cried the code on watch fracturing our most fleeting, yet precious resource attention itself cares gloria,
topic of attention. I think, is on everybody's mind for a lot of different reasons, and a lot of different ways is a lot of conversation around it
and ears, you lead with a star in.
Beginning on your website in the book.
which is around some resources you ve done, which is that it would it's kind of a mind. Boggling staff that the average person spends just
forty, seven seconds on any screen before shifting their attention. Tell me more
at this level,
start by saying that I've been tracking
Attention span for a long time
and I started tracking them back in around two thousand four
so before we had sophistical
the computer lacking techniques and we would
follow people round would stop watches
My goal was to get objective measures of attentions bands
as opposed to having people simply self report and say: oh, I think my attention span is this. We wanted to get really solid measures we started.
using these a stopwatch switch
as you can imagine, is very labour intensive. But then we,
which to computer, locking techniques and
over the last five six years.
We find that attention spans average about forty seven seconds on any screen. This has been replica
He did by other people, as well as one person
fifty seconds on average. Another person found forty four
seconds on average I've
sit on multiple studies. Where I get very close to this forty seven mark and
taking all these studies together, averages forty seven seconds so
its role is short and if we look at the mid point
Our observations, midpoint means median. Maybe something
are familiar with that term. That's forty seconds
That means that hats of oliver observations that we find our forty seconds or less so
We have this.
Finding the people's attention is very dynamic. Their ship
screens there.
either it's on their computer or phone, and I
this kind of behaviour, kinetic kinetic, referring to being very dynamic,
opposed to having long, sustained folk
yeah. That's right kind label, further, that quality with egypt.
There are a lot of other words and I think we probably can think about most people.
tend to think of there being
two states of attention being
focused or unfocused,
and when I first
studying this. I realise that sometimes we can give
engaged with something
requires a lot of mental effort, so we can be very challenged if I'm reading
something difficult
Reading tax law, which is
not a favorite thing of mine, but something you know. I've I've had to do
it really involves a lot of challenge. For me, there is
other things we do where we can be very engaged and hunted all challenged like when were playing solitaire were
you're playing some I
shooter game or you know
doing some simple
activity outside. We call that brought attention
right, you're, very engaged, but you're not
I'll challenged in what you're doing it's easy, wait. You're doing is very easy.
if you're not engaged and not challenged, we call
border state of boredom
and if you're challenge but not engaged, we,
Well that frustration and example is when I have attacked problem,
it's very challenging for me, and I am just not engaged tarred for me to stay engaged
with trying to fix fact so people
switch among all these different types of attention throughout the deck,
It turns out that the focused
pension when you're engaged and challenged.
And to have a rhythm. Throughout the day we find
there are to be two peaks
bid to light morning, and then there is another piece mid.
afternoon
and what we did was we we probed people on there.
There are some phones throughout the day and we just ask them two very simple questions: how engaged were you in the thing you are just doing and how challenged were you,
and so we were able to get a range of these kinds
responses throughout the day across watson.
People for multiple days and weeks
rapid out onto these different
hopes of attention that I talked about and we,
In order to be these peaks,
focused time the morning
afternoon and it corresponds
to the ebb and flow of the limit.
attention and resources that we have
one of the other things at you. You talk about new right about. Is this notion of multitasking
and I've heard so many different takes on this and its fascinating. How this would fold into a conversation around attention?
in a world where it seems like the pace of everything is accelerating expectations about productivity and what you could should be able to get accomplished
accelerating and being heightened,
Much as I think so. Many of us have heard well
multitasking is actually less effective
and creates a lot more wasted time and
switching cost and wrapping times it still
the dominant mode that we operate in white
winning here. First of all, people
by and large
mano chronic, and that means people prefer
to do one thing at a time before, moving on to something else, the problem
is that we live in a polly, chronic world. We live
a world that puts d
and on us to behave in polly, chronic ways. Polly chronic means, switching among different
hands or multitasking. So you know in the workplace
Of course, we would all love to do minor, chronic work, but we get
emails. We have people coming into the office. We have meetings that
we have to attend to get phone calls
constantly switching our attention based on the demands of the environment, and so
it's like were were square pegs with
preferences forced into round holes to do something. That's just not basic torn natures, now
talked about is multitasking a good thing. It's not a good thing. First of all,
multitasking does not
in that we're doing two things fully
in parallel right what were
actually doing switching our attention
If one of those things is automatic, like you can walk and taxed,
walking is automatic. Sure you can,
the two things at the same time, but if two things
require some kind of mental effort. You cap what
doing instead is for switching our attention sometimes rapidly, so
no being and assume meeting. I think many people had the experience, you're and zoom in you're. Trying to do your email
same time and your stretching back and forth
no one in our committee, but we ve heard about the sure. Of course, net never were were completely innocent
and ensure it seems to work fine until your name is called it and it's too
for you to answer a question or report you.
I have no idea what had been going on in the meeting, Spain.
Your attention was on your email, so when people,
tat, there are three things that way: it's bad
number one is people make more errors. We know that from debt,
kids of research in the laboratory. We
from real world studies
studies of nurses and physicians show that they make
were errors. Wendy switch,
our attention when they multitask physician.
make more prescribing yours when there
multitasking, which is quite concerning pilots, make more
We also know that
you mentioned the idea of a switch cost that
Every time we switch our attention to something else. We
to reorient to that
your task and the best way I can decide
what's going on
by using a metaphor, matching
but whiteboard inside your mind.
Every time you
move to a new task. You need a ride,
presentation of what the task is
what information you need the way you're going to work on it and your friend,
an information onto this.
whiteboard in your mind and then suddenly you're switching to do something else like checking email,
you're, a raising that whiteboard, if your mind in writing the new information that you
to do emo rightly meter
understand
HU, the sender, is, and why you should delete and white you should respond to and then suddenly you switch to do something else. Your racing that model
in writing new information, but in the same way that we can't always completely
I raise a white poured in britain
we can always fully raise the content
In our mind, though,
I put in our mind
sometimes it leaves a residue
and you don't imagine that you read some really upsetting news article and then you want to go back to work
That emotion can stay with us and interfere with her task at hand. The time
it takes for
to be doing switching. That is this which cost
it takes longer. First, her perform multiple tasks, compete.
If we just did one right after the other, but the real name,
in the coffin is that
tight, tasking increase.
the stress
We know that
the causal effect. We know that
people are switching their attention fast there?
dress- goes up,
ever tory studies show that blood pressure increases when people multitask
there is a physiological marker in the body that increases when people multitask and
We found in our research when people where heart rate monitors, which provides a measure of stress that when we correlate that with
attention. Switching, we find that stress goes up in fact
We try to control for all the things we can. Think of that can
creates, dress things like job role. Job demands
gender and create
after controlling for that, we find that stress,
increases. So it's not a good back to do multinational
one. The other measure that was really interesting is around the notion of flow. I think
It is a concept that a lot of us have experience. It was popularized by merely to semi high and and
It's this state of affairs
absorption people. Experience almost on a level bless
become held up in culture, as is its like it's. The ultimate aspiration is the ultimate state to aspire to bid
different lens on this. I do
first of all, the notion
the flow is
me how you sheikh somehow he describes as the optimal experience it's when
in a people are extremely creative, you're, so deeply immersed in something that time
doesn't seem to matter. It sounds great right and it is good.
but is also not realistic, and let me explain what I mean by that before
I
entered the field of psychology actually was an artist. So I had studied art and
I used to get into flow regularly when I worked
in my studio and
you know, sometimes hours would go by and then all of a sudden I would notice of my car- should cite two or three o clock in the morning. I pray
he said should get home.
and so I would enter flow regularly and it was the nature of the work that I did that enable
me to enter a flow state because art is inherently creative and if you talk
people who play music or people who to sports
were dancers or people.
We have a hobby
woodworking would
very easy to enter a flow state right. These are inherently creative activities, but if you're a person
who does knowledge, work and a lot of the work that we
during the day,
not necessarily conducive to flow
so what do I do? I conduct research I
wise data right papers. I interview people all
activities, involve my
doing, analytical thinking right. I have to work hard to
concentrate on what I'm doing
it doesn't necessarily give me into flow,
occasionally, if I'm brainstorming with someone I might get into flow, but
Most of the time I don't expect to, and I've studied
lots and lots of knowledge workers
over the years, and people were
for the same kinds of things that in may be in a group
brainstorming session. They might get into flow if you doing
complex coding. People can get into flow
for most of the kinds of activities,
people do, especially when we use our devices
not realistic to expect that we get into flow, but I want to point out is that a bad thing it doesn't
beam that it's not rewarding are fulfilling. It can be extremely fulfilling in the world
I do is, is so rewarding, but I'm not
in flow, and I can recognize the difference from when I
an artist and got into flow regularly know them.
Since the swords less about there's not saying there is added value in this state is just the real
stake nature of the way that so many people work, especially in a knowledge of the work related field.
There are a lot of hurdles to be
malta to entering
that place and then stay there for any meaningful amount of time. So it makes it almost wonder the aspiration at that point then becomes
we're point of frustration because it
like well, I should be there. I strive to be there, but I just can't so maybe there's something wrong with me or what I'm doing a bit.
It's interesting frame, I think
same thing. I think that there are these
petitions that we share.
you getting into flow and if we can do so
wrong with its maybe we're. Not creative people
and I would say no, of course, you're a creative person
but put yourself in a different situation that gives you a
opportunity to experience flow. You know play music,
sports him there's a lot of opportunities to expire
It's for doing right, climbing you can experience flow
flow is really about
experiencing the right balance of using
your skill.
Also having the right amount of challenge. If you're wrong.
watching a netflix movie.
that's not being in flow right. It's really about
think that people are performing something there doing. But you know I
have to
emphasize tat if you dont get into flow
for anyone who expects that they should and fills
don't worry about it.
it's an unrealistic expectations to think that
should be and flow so often so, let's think about what might
be more realistic, which is
understanding butcher, personal rhythm of attention is an
urging that and
designing your day, so there
you're doing the hardest work and the work that requires the most creativity
for those times when your attention is at its peak- and you won't
form well and you'll, feel rewarded.
Now? I love that piece of advice if he has a good place for us to come full circle and our conversation is well and always wrap up with the same question.
here curious what your thoughts are in this container of good life project. If I offer up the phrase
living life. What comes up
I think it so important to be with people people, you love people, you have deep friendships
people with who you
feel safe and can be creative with theirs.
Nothing. I love more than just being creative around other people.
So for me, that's a good life to be just surrounded by,
people, you love, you can be created with. Thank you.
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so I love how Gloria shares such illuminating details into attention puzzles through her meticulous studies. Her findings generally spark curiosity around optimizing. This allusive focus our net,
and final guest is best author gretchen reuben. Through her exhaustive studies of habit and human nature, she discovered what he calls the four distinct tendencies that shape expectations and her breakthrough. Work reveals how unseen patterns impact every domain from deadline dashes two new year's resolutions by delving into literature and meeting with nobel laureates. She leverages multi disciplinary lenses to really see hidden behaviors with new eyes, and now she helps others understand their tendencies to through eliminating books and podcast. So whether you feel at the whim of forces, you can't name or want self awareness, gretchen work and her protein words just may help cracker innate codes around how you direct your attention, hairs, gretchen
so I kind of gonna die right in with you, because you ve been working on something that
has fascinated you for a long time now to cut it grew out of your last book. Yes,
so tell what happened here so
I was I set out to write a book about habit changed. You know it was ended up being my book better than before, and so I was like. Ok, what are the secrets of habit change like? How can people change their habits
and as I got into it,
I started notice. So, first of all I noticed. Okay, there is no magic. One size fits all answer and if somebody tells you that you should do it for thirty days or two
first thing in the morning or set all the books. Tell you there. I know that there is not is like at all events any so what I learned was that it really depends on you and that there are twenty one strategies that people can use to make or break their habits, and so that thought I was getting, but did they
It was puzzling, may cut of the deeper pattern that was puzzling. Me was
were kept saying certain things to me that
didn't bring true for me personally, so they were kind of they were sort of striking me because they didn't they were
things that I didn't identify with that. They were saying it is if they thought it was like a universal truth, and they were.
Exactly the same thing like it was uncanny, how all different people of all different personalities would say these similar things, and I was trying to figure out the pattern because it clearly had a lot to do with habits so, for instance,
We talked to cause. I am kind of like a happiness bully, as my sister calls me, and so I would constantly be talking to people about their habits when they could change them when they couldn't change them, and so there was a group of people
well who all said something like well. I can always take time
their people, but I can't take time for myself and that struck me cause. I don't feel that way. I don't feel like that
true for me, and then there was another group of people would I was his and they like. Well, how do you feel that nears resolutions, they would say? Well, I would
keep a new year's resolution if I wanted to, but I wouldn't do it on january first, because January first is an arbitrary date, and I was like ha
never really bothering me that its arbitrary, like they all use that word that really struck me and then I m
Conversely, I have several kind of like a kidney style conversations that one I was that a cocktail party at a woman said to me
talking about habits and she said well, I don't want to have any habits. I don't want to have routines. I don't want to lock myself in and I said to her well for me.
Discipline is my freedom.
and I really believe that that is true for me,
and she looked at me like I was not. Then she said that
make any sense, because freedom means no rules, and I was like
while we really see the world into her way and then I realized
I do see the world in a different way and I began to see how people fell into these very big. Four categories that explained
why they were saying these things to me and why this was showing up their habits and was showing up in lots of different parts of their lives,
You never the moment that you're like em, like
is it I remember looking at the two duellist thinking. This is expectations, and I mean in a new at that moment that that was the key thing, but then it took me a time to like plot.
out and then I couldn't. I couldn't visualize it because I kept thinking. What do you call?
two by two, when it's like four boxes, and I was trying to put them into the boxes, but I can't figure out how they related to each other like which, which one went where, and it is somehow
and when a rose was actually than diagram in a diamond shape, the minute
I saw it and it was like meets inner, meets outer meets inner resists outer resists outer resistant. I mean once I saw that I was like. Oh my god, this is it, and I remember when I did that when I sketched out the circles.
and realise that it was it was like. You know, it's like a fool
on fraud or nautilus, shall has this this elegance of nature,
always is kind of symmetrical so perfectly symmetrical,
That's what made you learn? How did you know was for well at it
I mean it was truly like the most gruelling intellectual task of my life, and I say that as somebody who worked on a lot of orissa opinions, which is this horrible written
and yet you got your former lawyer seen on talking about an eye.
These patterns, and I I could feel
that their work patterns there, but I couldn't figure out what they related to. I couldn't figure out what was at the heart of it.
I didn't know how many there were, because I didn't know what it was
so I just kept heavy, but I would have these things that would stick in my head, like this, congress is probably the most important conversation I had with somebody
was when I had lunch with a friend and she said
I would be happier if by exercised.
I was in high school. I was on the track team and I never miss track practice
So why can't I go running now and this question
just haunted me, I knew the minute. You said that it was a super super important question in that I had to figure out. The answer is no,
things going on my head, and then
There was a sitting there looking at my to do list for some reason, I thought.
You know I'm meeting my expectations and I realized that was the key. Was this idea of expectations outer expectations and inner expectations and
I saw that I began to see how the four tendencies fall into these perfect.
lapping categories so there had to before. There could not be any more than four because for took care of jimmied outer expectation.
turkey resist our expectations to meet our expectations are de resist inner expectations. It sort of like
or covers all them, so, let's just quickly just define actually define the four different tenants
Ok, so it is about how you meet expectations, our expectations and inner expectations. So they're up upholders cos.
to obliges and rebels.
upholders, readily mean outer and inner expectations. So they me to work deadline. They keep in years resolution without much fuss
they want to know what's expected of them from other people, but their expectations for themselves are just as important dinner questioners question.
question all expectations. They'll do something if they think it makes sense, they hate anything arbitrary or irrational or unjustified, so they may
everything in inner expectations, because if it meets their standard, then they'll do it, but if it doesn't they resist. So these are the people who think being reversed is an arbitrary date. They just they don't like anything, arbitrary
oblige yours readily meet our expectations that they struggle to meet our expectations of this
my friend on the track team who could go running when she had a team in a coach waiting for her expecting her
when she was just going running on her own. She struggled and then
apples rebels resist all expectations outer and inner like they want to do what they want to do in their own way in their own time? And if you ask or tell them to do something there very likely to resist
typically, they don't even want to tell themselves what to do so. This
My friend, who said freedom
means no rules. She was
double. Unlike now. Looking back on our conversation, she was like. I would now she checked every box of rebel, and so these are. The four tendencies
Really truly. Do believe that on that just about everybody,
it into one court tendency
interesting, because it's not always immediately easy, now eager out the guy- and you know like I say what you
yeah. She created, I mean, did extensive information serving the book, and I want dive into some of that
We call it yours, you gonna, think you do this when the last but came out you you created the on the. Is everybody s request? People can still taken it that happier cast our coms last quiz.
a light as evil, don't even need to take it, but it's there if you want to get it, I'm so fascinated you had this tremendous idea and
now got a zillion people. Have you
taken this. You got some recent research validated and a lot of really interesting levels.
for those listening absolutely wool, including the janitor link to the quotas, because you probably already have a sense for what the tendency is through this camera.
And butter. I found the quiz really helpful in helping
especially distinguish between like em, am I actually a questioner or an obligee who kind of liens? And while I remember you saying that when you you sort of had one kind of area of life in your mind, sort of as you're answering the questions and in fact, because of that in the book I said china
think of one arrogant life s darted through answer the classes try to keep a very general cause. I was thinking that you will you and I had that congress, the air and and the bookcase was actually so helpful for me because it really went into its in so much at is so much more
and I love how we didn't have a chance to get into a really all that much here, but how
you did laid out where, like here's, the overlap like like and uphold upholder, who tips this when tips this way and had a really certain like navigate those things, I think dumb,
such a valuable tool answers. It's almost like a technology to allow people to understand how to interact with each other, much more positive ways and lead to positive outcomes in the world. So full circle was hanging out here. The asked good life products to the last question. I always come back to. If I asked you what it means living
life. He notary, a good life is one where I have made my expectations for myself yet, which is the upholder answer. No, I mean it's like a kid. You identify
The aims that you want and and do the things that are going to bring them, bring them they're like
we want law. If I want love in my life, how do I act in a way that I bring more love into my life or if I want more learning how to bring more learning said? To me, a good life is where I know
those things are in working towards them. Thank you,
Thank you, so much gravity is so fun. I love how gretchen shines a light on the tendencies decoding patterns within all of us through a multi disciplinary lens, really empower self knowledge, so I hope Johann Gloria in corrections. Insights have ignited curiosity around optimizing, your most elusive, yet critical resource attention and focus by understanding, hidden habits and tendencies. We can better focus on what energizes our unique potential thanks for joining me on this journey, cracking the codes that guide our distracted days go forth and reclaim presence your good life awaits and if you loved this episode be sure to catch the fall conversations with today's guests, they're fantastic and you can find a link to those episodes in the show notes. And of course, if you haven't already done so, please go ahead and follow a good life product in your favorite listening app and if you've found this conversation, interesting or inspiring or valuable, can chances are you did since you're still listening here? Would you do me a personal favor, a seven second favorite and share it, maybe on social or by text or by email, or even just with one person? Just copy the link from the app you're using and tell those you know those you love those you want to help navigate this thing called life a little better, so we can all do it better together with more ease and more joy. Tell them to listen, then even invite them to talk about what you've both discovered, because when podcasts become conversations and conversations become action, that's how we all come alive together until next time on Jonathan fields, signing off for good life project,
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